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Separation anxiety is a form of grief and it is a perfectly natural emotion. All of us face with loss inevitably. At its least, separation anxiety can cause sorrow and mourning. At its worst, it can be completely debilitating. Don't give up. You can deal with your extended separation anxiety in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone. Please don't interpret anything in this article as being critical for feeling loss over being separated from someone you love. It is both natural and necessary to work through the loss with friends, other loved ones, and by recalling cherished memories. We each deal with and express our separation anxiety in different ways. And there is no attempt here to set a normal duration for separation anxiety. I've been grieving over one loss in our family for years now. I still feel the loss, but I also enjoy the memories and the joys of that relationship for so many years. That form of separation anxiety is valid and it is not debilitating. It may bring tears; but the sad moment is gently put aside and life goes on. On the other hand, separation anxiety can also render us incapable of any rational action, reasoned judgments, and make it impossible to enjoy on-going relationships. That sort of separation anxiety is harmful if it's allowed to continue. Common to most separation anxiety is a thought about what we lost. That could properly continue for many years. When we let those thoughts lead us to a period of reflection before putting them aside, that is a healthy response. If we let those thoughts lead us to anxiety about that loss or other possible losses, to becoming overwhelmed by depression, or to being incapable of dealing with the required daily routine of life, we need to do something about it. In a moment, you'll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your extended separation anxiety. Because I don't want to leave you upset, I'm going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it - after you know what to expect. Each moment of separation anxiety is initiated by a thought. If we dwell on the thought, it may be so intense that we seem to be reliving the actual loss again. If you're dealing with extended separation anxiety in your life these days, right now I want you to pause and think about your loss. But DON'T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, "I'm not going to think about that now." If it recurs, say it again, "I'm not going to think about that now." I think you'll discover that the thought leading to separation anxiety will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away. This solution for extended separation anxiety is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the negative thinking associated with extended separation anxiety is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that right now." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud. Someone said, "That's easier said than done." Not really. You have the built-in authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you grief, don't think that thought. It's your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It's amazing how quickly this can happen. Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like grieving. The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It's this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of grief anxiety. At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking grieving thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to your grief anxiety before they become conscious thoughts. Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind control your grief anxiety for you before you even consciously think about it. Resources you can use Help someone you love deal effectively with separation anxiety. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s018. You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including extended grief anxiety. I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you as much with your grief anxiety as it helped me with my anger problem. Rod Peeks
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