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It seems that today more people tend to focus on wedding ceremonies and not the important thing that happens when it's said and done: the actual marriage. It's easy to see why people glamourize weddings, they're beautiful events where people can come together and celebrate the union of two people. Some brides and grooms who focus on planning the perfect wedding are shocked when they discover that they don't have the perfect marriage. If you want to have the chance to send out 50th anniversary invitations to your friends in a few decades, take time to learn these hard to swallow facts about marriage. Marriage Will Change Your Relationship (And That's a Good Thing) Marriage isn't like permanently moving in with your boy/girlfriend, marriage is truly taking your relationship to another level. Unlike what the average rom-com teaches you, the differences between married life and single life have nothing to do with how often you go out. You and your spouse have a duty to each other now, and you're going to have to change the way you do things. You're going to have to start making decisions with your spouse in mind, you can no longer only think of yourself. That will be a big change in your relationship, but it also gives you and your spouse a deeper level of appreciation and love for one another. You're Going to Change Your Mind About Important Issues It's very likely that you and your future spouse talked about important goals and lifestyle choices (religious affiliation, having/raising children, career goals) before you got engaged. Right now everything meshes, but a lot can change in 5/10/20/30 years. Your 27 year old spouse may decide that they don't want kids now, but that doesn't guarantee that they still won't kids when they're 35. People never stop changing, and the fact that you're values and goals change shows that you're growing as a person. Be prepared for your spouse to throw you through a few loops, and be even more prepared to handle them when they come. Marriage Doesn't Guarantee Happiness If you ever find yourself thinking "_______ will be better once we're married" or " I'll be happier once I'm married", you aren't ready for marriage. If you're unhappy about your job, your body, or your life getting married isn't going to change any of that. Marriage isn't a magic wand. Many people who were very unhappy before they got married are shocked to find that they still feel the same unhappiness after they're hitched. If you're unhappy about something you need to work on the issue at hand, and not use marriage as a miracle cure.
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