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save the dates can be enough to spark a fight, and after months of walking on wedding eggshells you're going to feel stressed. Don't worry though, there are some things you can do when your family seems to be cracking under the pressure Dilemma #1: A family member seems bitter/jealous/resentful about your wedding You can't talk to your sister about your wedding plans without having her rant about how unfair it is that her little sister is getting married before her. Every time you see your Aunt Pearl she has a new story about how terrible her marriage was, and never has anything positive to say about the ceremony. Weddings can be a strange time for family members; it's possible that some of your members of your family are feeling a little sad and possibly left out now that you're getting married. After all you're essentially joining another family when you're married, and it's common for some people to have mixed feelings about it. Some of family members who have been hurt in the past are most likely airing out their horror stories because they love you and don't want to see you hurt. The best thing you can do the next time a snarky or doom heavy wedding comment comes up, ask them if there's something on their mind because they've been acting so negative. Sometimes all they need is some time to talk about how they feel. Dilemma #2: Family members that don't get along are coming to the wedding Hopefully you have family members who are mature enough to set their problems aside for one day, but sometimes that isn't possible. If you think that there's a possibility that a nasty argument could occur on your wedding day, you need to talk to your family members ASAP. It's okay to gently remind them that they have a responsibility as your loved one to be as civil as humanly possible during the wedding day, and let each party know how important it is that all of your family members witness your special day. You should also ask them how they feel about seating arrangements to ensure that they're comfortable during the reception. Dilemma #3 Your parents and in-laws don't get along In a perfect world in-laws and parents would always get along with one another, but in the real world personalities and life-styles don't always mesh well together. Ideally, you and your partner should take time to separately sit down with your parents and ask why they don't get along with your future in-laws. If it's just a matter of them simply not caring for one another, don't try to force a bond between them. They only really need to be together during the wedding and future important events, so just ask them to be civil with one another during the wedding. ">People typically think of weddings as a time where families come together, but sometimes families can end up falling to pieces over the big day. A conversation about seating arrangements or save the dates can be enough to spark a fight, and after months of walking on wedding eggshells you're going to feel stressed. Don't worry though, there are some things you can do when your family seems to be cracking under the pressure Dilemma #1: A family member seems bitter/jealous/resentful about your wedding You can't talk to your sister about your wedding plans without having her rant about how unfair it is that her little sister is getting married before her. Every time you see your Aunt Pearl she has a new story about how terrible her marriage was, and never has anything positive to say about the ceremony. Weddings can be a strange time for family members; it's possible that some of your members of your family are feeling a little sad and possibly left out now that you're getting married. After all you're essentially joining another family when you're married, and it's common for some people to have mixed feelings about it. Some of family members who have been hurt in the past are most likely airing out their horror stories because they love you and don't want to see you hurt. The best thing you can do the next time a snarky or doom heavy wedding comment comes up, ask them if there's something on their mind because they've been acting so negative. Sometimes all they need is some time to talk about how they feel. Dilemma #2: Family members that don't get along are coming to the wedding Hopefully you have family members who are mature enough to set their problems aside for one day, but sometimes that isn't possible. If you think that there's a possibility that a nasty argument could occur on your wedding day, you need to talk to your family members ASAP. It's okay to gently remind them that they have a responsibility as your loved one to be as civil as humanly possible during the wedding day, and let each party know how important it is that all of your family members witness your special day. You should also ask them how they feel about seating arrangements to ensure that they're comfortable during the reception. Dilemma #3 Your parents and in-laws don't get along In a perfect world in-laws and parents would always get along with one another, but in the real world personalities and life-styles don't always mesh well together. Ideally, you and your partner should take time to separately sit down with your parents and ask why they don't get along with your future in-laws. If it's just a matter of them simply not caring for one another, don't try to force a bond between them. They only really need to be together during the wedding and future important events, so just ask them to be civil with one another during the wedding.
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