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Anger is destructive. Your anger can kill you; not to mention destroy all your important relationships. You can deal with your anger in a way that is far more simple and far more effective than anything you've tried before. Anger can hurt you physically as much as it can hurt you emotionally. Prolonged anger can cause dangerous increases in hormone levels, blood pressure, and it can cause damage to internal organs. Some studies indicate that anger can increase the likelihood of heart attacks and strokes. Anger can become addictive in that it produces a sort of "adrenalin thrill" somewhat like you can experience skydiving, bungee jumping, or riding a roller coaster. Unrestricted anger can result in a "rage" that can cause us to harm ourselves or people around us. I know you've heard of "road rage" and "acts of passion" that resulted in injury or death, sometimes to innocent parties. Anger can also damage family relationships, social relationships and even cost you your job. Popular approaches to anger include "taking a timeout" or "punching a pillow" to vent your anger. Some suggest that you "scream" or use exercise as a vent. People are taught conflict resolution, how to be assertive, and how to remove oneself from anger-inducing situations. These ideas may be good and effective when a threat is immediate and action is required. There is a far-more-common form of anger that occurs over and over again without any real-time provocation. Such anger is an emotional response to the memory or recollection of an offense suffered in the past - sometimes many years in the past. When these memories pop into your mind as negative thoughts; and we mentally chew or ruminate on them; it can become just like the original incident all over again. But, it’s all triggered by memories or thoughts. It’s not happening all over again in most cases. The solution is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the negative thinking that results in recurring anger is "simply choose not to think about it." When a negative thought that you know leads to anger pops into your mind, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.” Do it again if the idea pops up again. Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.” Not really. You have the inborn authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you anger, you can choose not to think that thought. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen. Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like dwelling on thoughts that make you angry. The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of anger.<.b> At that point, you won't even realize you are thinking the anger-provoking thoughts. Before they become conscious thoughts, you handle them subconsciously. Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind control your negative thinking for you before you even think about it. Resources you can use If you could deal with anger simply and effectively, would you take 3 minutes to learn more? Check it out at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/r001 You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you. I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you as much as it helped me with my anger problem. Rod Peeks
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