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If you're struggling with a child who is throwing temper tantrums, rest assured that you're not alone. It's a completely normal part of development, especially for children between the ages of one and three. The reason children throw tantrums is usually because they're frustrated or angry, and it's their way of expressing themselves. What you should do when your child throws a tantrum: • Even though this is frustrating and stressful, as the parent, you must stay calm. You must maintain control of your emotions and reactions. Usually, your child is engaging in this behaviour because she is crying out for attention or because she wants something that you're not willing to give her. Remember that if you give in to her demands, you will be teaching her to manipulate others to achieve her goal. You must teach her acceptable ways to express her anger other than throwing a tantrum. • If you're at home, bring your child to a safe place where she can be alone. Then leave the room and do not return until you're sure she has calmed down. Once she has calmed down, return to the room and talk with her about her behaviour. • If you're in a public place, carry your child out of the area, if possible. It will be more comfortable for you and for others around you if you're able to do this. If possible, bring your child to your car and buckle her into the car seat. Explain that both of you will remain there until she calms down. After she is calm, tell her that you will both now return to the public place, but if she throws another tantrum, then you will again both return to the car until she can behave. • If you're in a public place and are not able to escape to your car (such as being in a grocery store check-out line), the only thing you can do is to ride it out. Ignore your child's tantrum, even though she may be screaming. Ignore the people around you who may be glaring at you and making rude remarks. This will be difficult, but you can do it. Remember--stay calm! Once you are able to leave the public place, talk with your child about her behaviour. • When you talk with your child about her tantrum, explain that this behaviour is not all right. Tell her that when she feels angry, she needs to let you know that she is angry by saying, "I am angry." Have her repeat those words to you so you know she understands. Remember that it may take a long time before your child learns how to control her temper. The key to dealing with the tantrums of your child is the ability to stay calm and in control. And remember--the temper tantrums won't last forever--your child will outgrow them eventually! These great tips were brought to you by Jacqui Vincent. Jacqui is the owner of http://www.MyKidsShoes.com.au, Australia's leading online supplier of Boys Shoes Online.
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