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Let me cut to the chase: if you don't know how to carry on a good conversation, you can forget about being awesome with girls. But if your conversation skills are lacking, don't worry - I can give you a few powerful tactics to help you out, and with some practice, you can become a master of conversing with girls. Don’t worry if you don’t have a natural “gift of gab.” Just put in the necessary time to practice these skills, and over time you'll make dramatic improvements - to the point where chatting and flirting with women will feel completely natural. That’s because you’ve developed a core foundation of skills for any situation you’ll encounter. If you have multiple ways to sustain a conversation, it creates more curiosity in the mind of a woman. She’ll be thinking to herself: “I wonder what he’s gonna say next?” By keeping her guessing (and on her toes), you'll make sure she is never bored when talking to you - and boredom is probably the #1 "attraction killer" that will destroy your chances of hooking up. You don't need to talk about deep subjects. In fact, you can keep the conversation light and playful. But it must never be boring. The ability to engage her in a fun conversation, that branches out into unexpected areas, can be the key advantage you have over the other guys...and it's a surefire way to make her start feeling interested in you. So let's jump into it. Here are five of my favorite methods for turbo-charging your conversations with women. 1. Ask her questions that are non-threatening and genuine If you're been studying PUA (Pick Up Artist) routines and language, there's a good chance that the girl you're talking to has encountered this stuff before. PUA routines have gone mainstream, and in bars and clubs around the world these routines are being overused. Some of these PUA routines are in fact quite clever (and can be effective) - assuming she hasn't heard them before. But you must remember that any lines or routines you use must be congruent with your personality and body language. You must project confidence and playfulness. The most clever "pickup routine" in the world will fail miserably if the guy delivering it is fidgeting nervously and can't maintain eye contact. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. Also keep in mind that a woman needs to feel comfortable with you, in order for her to feel a connection. (And if you're obviously not comfortable in your own skin...and confident in yourself...there's no way she's going to feel comfortable with the conversation.) I would suggest that instead of trying to rely on lines or routines that you memorized in a book, show confidence by asking genuine questions and sharing genuine opinions. 2. Observe and be perceptive You'll never "run out of steam" during the conversation, and struggle to figure out what to say next, if you pay attention to the environment you're in -- and the people, places and things around you. . This can spark attraction in a woman, when she feels that you're confident enough to lead the conversation and you're tuned into your surroundings. Just make sure whatever you say is accurate and genuine, and you don’t have an agenda behind it. Women have built-in, finely-tuned BS detectors, and if she feels you’re not being truthful with her (or you’re saying something just to get her into bed)… it’s game over, and you’re done. 3. Don’t let her see you sweat, keep it light Women generally worry about small things more than men do. At any given time, you can assume that a girl has at least one thing on her mind that is causing her stress. As long as you can keep her smiling and having fun, so that she forgets about her other worries, you'll be a guy she wants to hang out with. Think of Hollywood icons such as Sylvester Stallone, George Clooney, Russell Crowe, Clint Eastwood, or John Wayne -- these guys never seemed worried or anxious, and were able to handle any situation that arose. They also used a dose of humor now and then to show they were firmly in control. (James Bond, no matter which actors was portraying him, is another great example). A woman will follow your social lead, based on how you come across and make her feel. By being cool, calm and relaxed at all times, and using humor (especially when things aren't going according to plan, such as trying to talk to a girl in a loud, crowded nightclub), you'll make her feel safe in your presence, and this is one of the prerequisites for making any woman feel attraction. 4. Be an active listener Observe the interactions between guys and girls the next time you're hanging out in a bar or club. You'll notice that in most cases, the guy does most of the talking -- usually in an effort to impress her. But the conversation game isn't won by being the smoothest talker, or trying to "earn points" by bragging about who you know, the car you drive, the money you make, etc. It's also about being an attentive listener. This may not come easily or naturally to you at first - especially if you’re an extrovert, or are nervous in social situations. You might need to start biting your tongue and holding back, in order to let her do more of the talking. People like other people who let them talk, and women will respect and appreciate you more. When you practice being an active listener, you’ll become more relaxed in all social situations. 5. Stay “present” and in the moment As guys, we think about a lot of things: The idiot that cut us off in traffic… what time tonight’s game starts… or what band is playing this weekend - and we don’t focus on the person or situation right in front of us. If you're the type of guy who gets anxious or tongue-tied around hot girls, you might allow your thoughts to drift all over the place ("Does this girl like me?" "What if she has a boyfriend?" "Do I sound like a total dork?" Etc.). When this happens, and you allow your own "mental traffic" to distract you, you won't be focused on the present moment. This means that even though you might be standing right in front her, you are not truly "present." And when women sense this, it's a big turn-off. Stay focused on her and make a conscious effort to eliminate the mental chatter going on inside your head. You must stay fully engaged in the present moment, contributing to the conversation in a genuine way, sharing your thoughts, and acknowledging what she has to say. You aren’t nodding like a bobble head doll, or mindlessly saying “uh-huh” or “yeah” every so often. You're not fooling women when you take this lazy, distracted approach to the conversation. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass. Like anything, you’ll have to put in time and effort to develop this skill - but the payoff in better business and personal relationships is HUGE. Everyone loves to be listened to and appreciated, whether it's a babe you meet at the bar, or the guy sitting across the desk from you, interviewing you for a job. A final note: while becoming a great conversionalist is an important step towards becoming awesome with women, it's not the only weapon you need in your arsenal. If you try to learn these skills and attitudes on your own without any guidance, you’re in for a long, ego-bruising journey (like I went through). What you need is a thorough, comprehensive game plan which will help you go from the opening conversation, all the way to a successful seduction. In the long run, improving your overall level of confidence, and your lifestyle, will attract far more women than memorizing a few clever or sneaky "routines" to make a woman drop her guard. I do believe in good, solid information that can help you become the rare man who can attract - and keep - a quality woman in your life. If you're ready to become the "total package" that women love, download the legendary Mack Tactics guide by clicking the link below. This book contains dozens of awesome strategies and techniques for meeting girls and quickly creating "connections" with them -- but at the same time, you'll learn how to develop an overall lifestyle and image that women find deeply interesting and attractive. Why wait another day, or spend another Saturday night striking out and not getting the results you want.
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