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We live in a world wherein conflicts, arguments and disagreements cannot be avoided , therefore you need to be a peacemaker! Being a peacemaker would lessen the tension and disunity between conflicting parties. Even little children, like you, can act as the mediator whenever there is trouble at home or in the community. Here are some of the helpful ways on how to stand between the gaps and become the peacemaker. You must have the desire to be the peacemaker. You should be willing to do the task of creating peace between your friends who have disagreements or conflicts. You should do it not because you were forced or obliged but you must have the desire to make things go well. Practice positive thinking. When you hear about negative news or conversations, you should overcome it with your positivity. It will reverse every negative words and the situation will turn out to a healthy one. Negative words could only bring stress and anxiety and it is important that you practice saying positive words all the time as this can bring encouragement to everyone. Show respect when you approach the conflicting parties. When there is conflict between your friends, you should show respect when approaching them. You should talk to them in a nice way. You can invite them in a safe place where no one can hear your conversation as you are trying to resolve the conflict. You should avoid yelling or blaming. When the two parties have agreed to talk, you should advice them to avoid yelling and blaming as this can worsen out the situation. They should avoid bursting out of their emotions as they will end up throwing words that would be painful and humiliating for them. Always aim to achieve mutual benefit. When you are trying to reconcile them, you should make sure that both of your friends are willing to cooperate in order for them to find solution to the problem. You need to find ways in order for them to express their concerns in a healthy manner. You should listen attentively. When your friend is trying to express his or her disappointments or concerns, you should pay full attention to what he or she is saying. This will give your friend assurance that you understand the whole point of your conversation. This will give you a direction on how you could help resolve the conflict. Show empathy and put yourself in their situation. Be considerate to the feelings of your friends who are involved. You should try putting yourself in their place so you can fully understand them and you can give advice on how both of them can reconcile. Focus more on finding solution to the problem and avoid looking back into the past. You can use the past on identifying the factors that have caused the conflict but you should discuss more on the present and future issues. You should encourage them to look into the brighter side of things and forget about the disagreements that have happened between them. You should brainstorm for plans that would be good for everyone. Always make sure that the solution to the problem of your two friends is not biased. You should see to it that everyone is happy with the agreement that was made. If the solution is not beneficial for both of them, then you should brainstorm for other ways that is flexible to everyone. Always confirm from both conflicting parties if they agree to the solution. This will give an assurance that both of your friends are willing to do their part in resolving the issues between them. It would be very effective if both of them will do their part in creating peace between them. It is very important that even in your childhood, you learn on how to be a peacemaker wherever you go. You will create an environment that is peaceful, healthy and nonviolent. For more transforming strategies for ADHD, visit http://askdoctorjohn.info/
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