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Love is more than the feelings that we hold. Love also includes the actions that we take. Loves acts as defined by Buss (1988) and Swenson (1972) are 1.) attract a mate, 2.) retain the mate, 3.) reproduce, and 4.) Parental investment. These acts are the essential reason why many of us decide that we want to fall in love and get married. These theories constitute a general approach to love. 1.) Attracting a Mate: Attracting a mate is more difficult then simply going into the public and saying “hi” to everyone. Attracting a mate could require a strategy (ask everyone or ask just a few quality candidates), it requires an image (simple or sophisticated), requires considerable financial investment (nice car, clothing, dating money) and requires physical exertion (looking attractive). Your personality will help determine which approach works best for you. Do you feel more comfortable spending lots of money for the right car, clothing, house and image? You might be the type of person who would rather find someone who doesn’t require all of these status symbols. Your method is based on your image/outlook and your financial resources. 2.) Retain a Mate: It sounds like this is pretty simple to do. Once you have attracted your mate you will live happy every after. Not so! It takes a lot of work to keep relationships strong and viable. Listening, caring, working out problems, romance, finances and more are all part of the equation. If we consider that more than 50% of couples get divorced and most relationships don’t progress past the dating phase we will have a better grasp on how difficult it can be to keep a partner. 3.) Reproducing: One of the main points of getting married is to reproduce and spread one’s genetic line into the future. There are two philosophies when it comes to reproducing. The first one is to spread one’s genetic line as far as he can without any care for the children and the other philosophy is to spread the genetic line to only a few children but then give them the best start possible in life. 4.) Parental Investment: Parents can invest in their children or they can ignore their children’s well being. We know that there are good parents and bad parents. Keeping your children safe, providing for their education, providing for their material needs and instilling in them confidence is important. There are many approaches to accomplishing these feats. Of course there are parents that due to their own lack of maturity and impulse control jeopardize their children everyday. Murad Ali, a two-time published author, writes articles and offers advertisement space for businesses. Visit http://www.blogpublishingandmarketing.com and http://www.thenewbusinessworld.blogspot.com and http://www.datingdesires.blogspot.com and http://www.fitnessanddietblog.blogspot.com and http://www.marketing-masters.blogspot.com
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