The person you are when you are clean and sober is probably a far cry from the person you were caught in steel grip of drug addiction. The problem may be getting others to recognize the difference too. Addicts are known for pushing relationships with family and loved ones to the limit. Some of the most common symptoms a person displays when abusing alcohol and other controlled substances include stealing, lying, physically hurting themselves/others, violence, breaking the law, causing financial problems, problems keeping a job and being unfaithful. Addicts are unpredictable and over time have trouble functioning “normally.” This usually means that someone else is left shouldering the responsibilities – a spouse, parent, sibling, or even a child. Over time loved ones become angry and resentful. They realize that they can’t trust the addict and any efforts at communication become next to impossible. A very real consequence of drug addiction is that relationships can become ruined. When an addict makes the brave decision to get help, at some point during the healing process comes the desire to repair broken relationships. It’s important to be patient and understand that it takes time to bridge the gap between all the lies, broken promises and hurt feelings. Most chemical dependency counseling experts agree that those recovering from addiction should put time into the recovery process before attempting to rebuild relationships. The addict usually ends up putting in most of the effort because he is the one who was involved in the destructive behaviors that led to a breakdown in the relationship. Addicts often join support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous that encourages 12-step programs that encourage making amends as a crucial part of addiction treatment and recovery. This is the time for the addict to really think about what happened during their addiction and think about the people who were hurt. Experts advise addicts to work closely with a counselor or therapists while making amends because the journey can be a stressful one. Rebuilding a broken relationship takes time and effort from both parties. Communication and honesty are essential. A professional therapist can act as an impartial third party during the healing process keeping both parties on track and helping them discover their own wants and needs for a new relationship. Repairing broken relationships is not impossible. It is possible to transition from the darkness and chaos caused by addiction toward mutual respect, love and tolerance. Forgiveness lays the ground work for learning to work through differences with loved ones going forward. About the Author: Robert Shryoc is the Director of Development at the Stonegate Center, a Texas treatment center. The Texas drug rehab community serves people entangled in the physical, mental, social and spiritual bonds of chemical dependency. For more information about the residential treatment facility please visit Related Articles -
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