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How confident are you in your ability to approach a random gorgeous woman and get her interested in talking to you? If you don't have this skill set, you're letting opportunities pass you by every day. Very few guys fully grasp how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, fun way that creates a compelling REASON for women to want to know them and take things further. When you spot a beautiful woman, you can assume that the last 47 dudes who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the park, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. At that point, she's going to look for a reason to bow out of the interaction as soon as possible. She may humor you for a few minutes, answer your questions, and then blow you off politely ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or she might shoot you down immediately ("Uh, I've got a boyfriend"). However she decides to handle it, the bottom line is that this conversation isn't leading anywhere -- certainly not to your bedroom! Here are the three deadliest mistakes that guys make when they approach women, and some advice on how to avoid these mistakes and get good, consistent results. Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking permission to talk to her. This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as: "Pardon me, would you mind telling me your name?" "Excuse me, would you mind if I asked you something?" "Can I buy you a drink?" Opening a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. From her point of view, you're some random stranger who WANTS something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in. By the way, offering to buy a girl a drink might sound as if you're trying to give her something -- not take something from her. But what you're actually trying to do is take her TIME. When a guy offers to buy a drink for a girl he just walked up to, what he's really doing is trying to BRIBE her (with a drink) into giving her time to him. Do you think a confident guy who gets laid a lot would approach women in this wishy-washy manner? Not a chance. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds. One of the basic principles of talking to women effectively is that you've got to stay in control of the interaction. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her talents, goals and passions) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago. At this point, a girl is going to start feeling attraction -- and this is when you're on the right track. But let's start from the beginning. The first "key" to maintaining your power and control is NOT starting the conversation from a position of weakness. Asking permission is a surefire way to blow the conversation before it even begins. Never ask permission. Assume that she'll be totally interested in meeting you. Deadly Approach Mistake #2: Not assuming rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have things in common. They're talking to each other as if they've been friends forever -- playing around, laughing, chatting about subjects of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview. When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the "conversation" seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. He could be having this same conversation with his dentist! On the other hand, the guy who is awesome with women always assumes rapport. These guys don't see any need to waste time asking a bunch of monotonous questions about where she's from, has she been to this place before, etc. Right from the start, he's joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination. By showing her that he's a high-value guy who is friendly and fun to talk to, but obviously has high standards, he makes her feel the need to prove HERSELF worthy. Even within the space of the first few minutes of conversation, this guy is showing her that he's an interesting, dynamic guy who clearly has a lot of OPTIONS, He leads an attractive lifestyle, and she's going to want to be a part of it. Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy. The majority of guys put too much importance on the "opener" -- what they're going to say to the girl FIRST. Actually, what you follow up with is far more important -- how you transition into the conversation and get it flowing. At that point, you can use a variety of techniques including Cold Reads, Hooks & Ladders, and Hypothetcials to make sure you NEVER "run out of steam" during the conversation. In short, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a vital early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important. Next, once comfort has been established, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.) Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the situation, this could mean scoring her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home that night. Unfortunately, VERY few guys really know how to "close" a girl the right way. Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the rocking Alpha Male sex life that most guys can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women. It means that literally anytime you leave your home -- whether it's to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends -- you'll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out over. Now I want to give you my bulletproof, sure-fire techniques for “closing the deal.” For a limited time, you can download our free manual on how to pick up girls and you’ll learn how the world’s best seducers and pickup artists close the deal FAST, every time! Click here for your free Mack Tactics book: Free Guide To Picking Up Girls
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