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You may already know that in “Mack Tactics,” my popular seduction strategy manual for men, I say that originality is the single most significant characteristic that you can convey to a female -- from the way you dress up, to how you approach the ladies start conversations with them. If your goal is to learn how to meet girls and get great results every time, that's where it begins. On the other hand, when you fail to make a unique impression, she’s going to involuntarily lump you in with the last 43 suckers who attempted to talk to her -- and within a few minutes of you paying for her overpriced drink, she’ll be telling you she needs to “go find her friend.” (Don't you just hate when women tell you that? As if her friend is lost somewhere in the nightclub, in desperate need of food and water...) When this happens, it leaves guys wondering how to get girls to even give them a fair chance! The key to forming a link with her is to engage her attention and prompt her to share details about herself. Then you’ll tell her how much you relate to what she is talking about, and establish a bond with her. Certainly, one of my preferred conversational tactics for accomplishing this is using Cold Reads. This method, which is used to impressive effect by psychics and palm readers, is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you. The key to Cold Reads is that the “observations” you’re making are relevant to virtually anyone. Yet there are interesting reasons why they work so effectively}. One reason is that people are self-centered, and we generally agree to claims about ourselves that point toward how we wish to be. Another reason is that people are basically vain, and we all want people to think that we're unique. Although Cold Reads are usually ambiguous generalizations -- which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the hottie partying with her friends at the nightclub -- as humans, we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception. The bottom line, really, is that you need to forget about asking the generic “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) When I'm in a bar or a nightclub, talking to a girl and wanting to make a quick connection with her, I'll use a Cold Read: “You know, Tina, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.” Here's another Cold Read example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you would do anything for them.” Or, "I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take risks, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances...and that’s when you’ve had some of the greatest experiences of your life.” So if the girl agrees with one of these “reads” -- and seriously, I’ve never had a woman flat-out oppose what I said -- I’ll proceed by telling her that I can totally relate, because I’m the same way. This creates a connection between me and her. In order to strengthen the bond, I’ll tell a brief story -- one that illustrates how I’m the same type of person. (If you’ve got several Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have some brief stories to exemplify how you personify those same qualities.) A similar approach is using “Barnum statements,” named after the circus showman P.T. Barnum. These statements apply to just about anybody, but give the impression that you’re tapping into her inner psyche. My favorite is, "I get the feeling that something's been on your mind lately. You're on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you." If you think about it, pretty much all people, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is important to us, at least). Regardless, she’ll be very impressed that you knew that about her. The girl will then most likely volunteer more information -- and now you’re engaged in a meaningful, genuine dialogue instead of wasting time with generic chit-chat. Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeat back what the subject has said, as if the cold reader already knew the answer. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making an important decision, nod shrewdly and say, "Yes, that's right, and you’re really having a tough time with it." Claim her answer as your own. Here are other Cold Reads that are indistinct yet “profound”: “You have a deep desire for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.” "You have a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it- but something is holding you back.” “There are times when you’re very social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and withdrawn.” Since you now understand the idea behind Cold Reads, you can formulate your own. Based on her energy, the way she’s dressed, and how she acts during the first few minutes of the interaction, you should be able to use a “read” that applies to her. The Cold Read is simply one illustration of an original, provocative conversational ploy that makes it simple to figure out how to get girls to chat with you. 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