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Christian pre marriage counseling is important especially for couples going to marry or just got married. They may think they know each other very well after spending a lot of time with each other during dating. However, not everyone is willing to share their daily living habits with each other which is a big loophole. In case you do not understand what I mean by loophole, just picture yourself in this scenario. Your husband is no longer enthusiastic as he used to be when he started dating you. Or your wife keeping nagging you that money is tight and you should start saving for things like utilities, groceries and some other bills instead of fine dining and going out together on birthdays, Valentines and wedding anniversaries. If you have children, that is going to be worse as you now have a responsibility towards them both emotionally and financially. Unless you are earning a lot of money or running your own profitable businesses, it is very difficult to be able to enjoy the life you and your spouse once had during dating. Since you both are married, you have a responsibility to share and look after each other instead of depending on your parents every now and then. If this happens to non Christians especially those who married early say at 18, their chances of marriage lasting for 1 year and beyond are very slim. This is not my own conclusion but what I see in papers and internet everyday of young couples divorcing and their children being abused and suffering as a result. If this happens to Christians, this is slightly easier. They have cell groups and pastors who will help them every way they can. But only if the couple are being honest and reveal what their church need to know rather than what they want their church to know. Without Christian pre marriage counselling, life will be very tough for the couple even if they are Christians. Especially when things are not going well. Recessions, retrenchments, bills piling up, clash of personalities or differences, egoism and refusal to compromise. All these serve as common ingredients of a divorce recipe. The purpose of Christian pre marriage counselling is to remind the couple that they are still God’s children even in the eyes of men, they are full fledged adults. Since God is their heavenly father and parent, they still have to abide by the values he set forth for them. One of which is loving and caring for each other irregardless of how imperfect or how many flaws or mistakes they have and made. The main theme of Christianity is that God loves the world so much that he sends his son Jesus to be sacrificed for their sins. Non Christians – especially teens – will never understand this. They usually marry as a cover up and excuse for any pregeancy issues that may arise from their pre martial sex. They do not care about each other including their children. They really do not. They just do this to apprease their parents. With that being said, Christian pre marriage counselling is the bond and a gentle reminder to them the purpose of being Christians and part of God’s family. It is also crucial for them in building a strong foundation in such a way that their marriage will survive be it good times or bad.
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