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Let me cut to the chase: if you don't know how to carry on a good conversation, you can forget about being awesome with girls. The good news is… with consistent effort and practice, you can master this skill. While some guys are naturally blessed with the "gift of gab," other guys (like myself) were able to learn how to talk to girls effectively. Just put in the necessary time to practice these skills, and over time you'll make dramatic improvements - to the point where chatting and flirting with women will feel completely natural. Once you develop the core skills that I'm about to explain, you'll be ready to strike up a conversation with a girl in virtually any situation. One of the most important things to keep in mind when you talk to women is that you want to seem ORIGINAL. You shouldn't ask the same questions or use any of the same "lines" that she's heard from all the other guys. She’ll be thinking to herself: “I wonder what he’s gonna say next?” By keeping her guessing (and on her toes), you'll make sure she is never bored when talking to you - and boredom is probably the #1 "attraction killer" that will destroy your chances of hooking up. You don't need to talk about deep subjects. In fact, you can keep the conversation light and playful. But it must never be boring. The ability to engage her in a fun conversation, that branches out into unexpected areas, can be the key advantage you have over the other guys...and it's a surefire way to make her start feeling interested in you. Let’s get into the good stuff - here are 5 of the best ways to keep a conversation going: 1. Ask her questions that are non-threatening and genuine If you're been studying PUA (Pick Up Artist) routines and language, there's a good chance that the girl you're talking to has encountered this stuff before. PUA routines have gone mainstream, and in bars and clubs around the world these routines are being overused. If you try any of these tricks and they aren’t congruent with your personality, at the best you’re probably off to a bad start - and at the worst, she’s mentally blown you off. The best way to set yourself apart from other guys is to ask authentic questions… without an agenda or hidden motive. Also keep in mind that a woman needs to feel comfortable with you, in order for her to feel a connection. (And if you're obviously not comfortable in your own skin...and confident in yourself...there's no way she's going to feel comfortable with the conversation.) I would suggest that instead of trying to rely on lines or routines that you memorized in a book, show confidence by asking genuine questions and sharing genuine opinions. 2. Observe and be perceptive You'll never "run out of steam" during the conversation, and struggle to figure out what to say next, if you pay attention to the environment you're in -- and the people, places and things around you. . It’s a rare man who actually does this, and it’s a very attractive trait to women. Just make sure whatever you say is accurate and genuine, and you don’t have an agenda behind it. Don't underestimate the power of the female "B.S. detector," which is hard-wired into them. (This is especially true with very attractive women, who have a ton of experience with talking to men and can spot a phony a mile away.) If she feels that you're not being truthful, or that you're trying to manipulate her into hooking up with you, it's game over. 3. Don’t let her see you sweat, keep it light Most women spend a lot of time worrying about any number of topics. A guy who can keep her mind off the worries of the world is someone she’ll want to spend more time with. Think of Hollywood icons such as Sylvester Stallone, George Clooney, Russell Crowe, Clint Eastwood, or John Wayne -- these guys never seemed worried or anxious, and were able to handle any situation that arose. They also used a dose of humor now and then to show they were firmly in control. (James Bond, no matter which actors was portraying him, is another great example). When you radiate this type of confidence and control, women are going to want to follow your lead because you make them feel safe. By being cool, calm and relaxed at all times, and using humor (especially when things aren't going according to plan, such as trying to talk to a girl in a loud, crowded nightclub), you'll make her feel safe in your presence, and this is one of the prerequisites for making any woman feel attraction. 4. Be an active listener Observe the interactions between guys and girls the next time you're hanging out in a bar or club. You'll notice that in most cases, the guy does most of the talking -- usually in an effort to impress her. But the conversation game isn't won by being the smoothest talker, or trying to "earn points" by bragging about who you know, the car you drive, the money you make, etc. It's also about being an attentive listener. Being a great listener might not come naturally to you, especially if you're an outgoing guy with a good sense of humor, who is used to being the center of attention when you're hanging out with your buddies. You might need to start biting your tongue and holding back, in order to let her do more of the talking. One of the rules of human behavior is that people appreciate it when other people LISTEN to them, and this is especially true with women, who really appreciate a guy who seems interested in what they have to say. When you practice being an active listener, you’ll become more relaxed in all social situations. 5. Stay “present” and in the moment Men have a tendency to let their thoughts drift in a million different directions, rather than focusing on what's right in front of them -- in this case, a woman you want to connect with. If you're the type of guy who gets anxious or tongue-tied around hot girls, you might allow your thoughts to drift all over the place ("Does this girl like me?" "What if she has a boyfriend?" "Do I sound like a total dork?" Etc.). This mental chatter prevents you from being truly focused on the person or conversation at hand. For women it’s called being “present,” and it’s absolutely HUGE. A female friend of mine said: “Being present is EVERYTHING.” This means you’re truly engaged in a conversation, contributing and giving genuine feedback. Don't behave like most guys do -- nodding your head like a brainless "bobble head" doll and simply saying "uh-huh" or "yeah, totally" once in a while. Women aren’t fooled at all when you do this. You’ll appear lazy or apathetic, and she definitely won’t think you’re a badass. Mastering the art of conversation will yield benefits beyond scoring with women. These skills are also essential for forging business relationships and making progress with your other goals. Everyone loves to be listened to and appreciated, whether it's a babe you meet at the bar, or the guy sitting across the desk from you, interviewing you for a job. Conversation is just one of the skills needed to be a badass with women. I don't want you to spend years flailing around "in the wilderness" trying to apply these tactics without proper guidance. What you need is a thorough, comprehensive game plan which will help you go from the opening conversation, all the way to a successful seduction. In the long run, improving your overall level of confidence, and your lifestyle, will attract far more women than memorizing a few clever or sneaky "routines" to make a woman drop her guard. 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