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In the earliest days of my marriage, my spouse and I elected to go through a few sessions of couples counseling in order to improve our communication and work through some major issues we were facing. However, at the time, we made every effort to hide it because we were highly aware of the stigma attached. Many people tend to assume that couples going through counseling are on the brink of divorce. That is often far from the truth, though. Every couple has its specific troubles, and recognizing the need for third-party intervention to help you sort through them is, in fact, healthy. In fact, so many couples seek to avoid counseling, even when they are not effectively communicating and sorting through whatever is coming between them. By the time they actually seek therapy, it has become a last-ditch effort to salvage the relationship. In fact, when it is only sought as a last resort, it rarely fulfills its purpose. So how do you know when you should seek therapy? Well, consider your arguments. Every couple has them. Are you having nasty exchanges, full of name-calling or other putdowns, over seemingly minor things? Are your finances out of sorts because the poor judgment of one spouse? Do you ever have productive discussions about the issues you face, or does every one dissolve into a fight? What about grief? Sorting through grief associated with the death of a child or infertility with a qualified professional is a great preventative measure to keep your union from crumbling over devastation. My attitude is that when in doubt, you should seek counseling. Its purpose is to support your relationship through its trials, not make things worse. And if others disapprove? Well, don't worry about them. This is about your marriage. About The Author: Prometheus Psychological Services offers a full range of outpatient psychological services. The services include psychological assessment and a variety of therapies, including individual and group counseling. People use our services for depression, anxiety, and problems in relationships. (http://www.prometheuspsych.com)
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